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Hello, friends! Welcome to this Bible study lesson on "Getting Along
With People." Today many people are "looking out for number one"—themselves!
While looking out for themselves, it seems they don't really care if they
get along with others, only if they get what they want.
Of course, most of us do care, but mix-ups and mistakes seem to invade
our relationships too often. What can we do to improve our relationships,
build more friendships and get along with everyone we interact with? How
can we develop relationships that are beneficial to all? Let's see what
practical and helpful advice the Bible gives about getting along with
Lesson: Getting Along With People
The Bible has a lot to say about relationships, good and bad. In the pages of God's Word, we can find the secret to having good relationships. And the Bible says it starts with you!
A Christian from Georgia relates his story:
"When I was a young man, I had a supervisor who seemed to always have
it in for me. Regardless of what I did, it was not right. It was like
he just didn't like me. We just clashed.
"After a while, I just couldn't take it any more. I prayed to God about
the situation, and decided I would do what I could to get along with
him. I would try to be courteous, not contentious with him, regardless
of how he treated me.
"Soon afterwards, we got along! We became good friends, and had a great
relationship during the rest of the time we worked together. By applying
God's ways, a bad relationship turned into a good one."
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What Does the Bible Say About Getting Along With Others?
There's no way around it, we have to interact with others. It starts
with our parents, then our siblings, school classmates, coworkers, spouses
and children. Our lives are made up of relationships, and relationships
are what help make our lives enjoyable and meaningful. But broken relationships
can make our lives miserable. The simple fact of the matter is our relationships
work best when we get along. For God Himself says, "Can two walk together,
unless they are agreed?" (Amos 3:3).
What is a crucial ingredient in getting along with others?
Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God.
The beginning of strife is like releasing water; therefore stop contention
before a quarrel starts.
Being a peacemaker is necessary to get along with others. When our words
and actions are peaceful, we are on the right track on getting along.
God says to avoid strife whenever possible, because when strife enters
a relationship, problems will flood in.
What else is necessary for a good relationship?
Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness
of mind let each esteem others better than himself.
Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for
the interests of others.
1 Peter 5:5
Likewise you younger people, submit yourselves to your elders. Yes,
all of you be submissive to one another, and be clothed with humility,
"God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble."
Humility is important in getting along with others. When we focus on
others and their needs, and not just on our needs, good relations will
follow. We like it when someone is looking out for us, and the Bible says
we are to look out for others.
How does a good relationship start?
"Therefore, whatever you want men to do to you, do also to them,
for this is the Law and the Prophets."
A man who has friends must himself be friendly.
If we want others to like and welcome us, then we must first be willing
to like and welcome them. We are to take the initiative to be friendly,
regardless of how the other person treats or mistreats us. First impressions
go a long way in building a relationship, so demonstrating a genuinely
friendly disposition will open the door to a good relationship.
What builds a good relationship?
Pleasant words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health
to the bones.
Let your gentleness be known to all men. The Lord is at hand.
Both our words and actions need to be encouraging. People should be glad
to see you come, not glad to see you leave. The Bible says uplifting words
and actions will help you get along with others.
What tears down a relationship?
And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity. The tongue is so set among
our members that it defiles the whole body, and sets on fire the course
of nature; and it is set on fire by hell.
For every kind of beast and bird, of reptile and creature of the sea,
is tamed and has been tamed by mankind.
But no man can tame the tongue. It is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison.
With it we bless our God and Father, and with it we curse men, who have
been made in the similitude of God.
Out of the same mouth proceed blessing and cursing. My brethren, these
things ought not to be so.
A perverse man sows strife, and a whisperer separates the best of friends.
He who covers a transgression seeks love, but he who repeats a matter
A brother offended is harder to win than a strong city, and contentions
are like the bars of a castle.
Our words can build up others but can also tear others down. God says
this is destructive to both them and ourselves. Gossiping is a sure way
to make a relationship go bad, and sometimes it is nearly impossible to
repair the damage done as a result.
How do you get along with someone who mistreats you?
"You have heard that it was said, 'You shall love your neighbor
and hate your enemy.'
"But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you,
do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use
you and persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven;
for He makes His sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain
on the just and on the unjust.
"For if you love those who love you, what reward have you? Do not
even the tax collectors do the same?
"And if you greet your brethren only, what do you do more than
others? Do not even the tax collectors do so?
"Therefore you shall be perfect, just as your Father in heaven
Repay no one evil for evil. Have regard for good things in the sight of
If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all
Beloved, do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath; for
it is written, "Vengeance is Mine, I will repay," says the
Therefore "If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty,
give him a drink; for in so doing you will heap coals of fire on his
Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
How we treat others is not dependent on how they treat us. God wants
us to be friendly toward all, just as He is to all of humanity. Treating
a contentious person in a nice way definitely affects them. When the Bible
says good deeds toward an unfriendly person will "heap coals of fire on
his head," this does not mean our intent is to hurt the person. Our pure
motive should be to treat others the way we want to be treated. Our hope
is that they will in turn begin to treat us right, not get their heads
How do you deal with someone who, regardless of what you do,
only wants to cause strife?
A prudent man foresees evil and hides himself, but the simple pass on
and are punished.
1 Timothy 6:3-5
If anyone teaches otherwise and does not consent to wholesome words, even
the words of our Lord Jesus Christ, and to the doctrine which accords
with godliness, he is proud, knowing nothing, but is obsessed with disputes
and arguments over words, from which come envy, strife, reviling, evil
suspicions, useless wranglings of men of corrupt minds and destitute
of the truth, who suppose that godliness is a means of gain. From such
There are times when we need to try to avoid such individuals and their
ways. For more about handling these challenging situations, see the lesson
With Difficult People."
What does God say will happen to those who strive to get along
and are friendly toward others?
Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God.
"When the Son of Man comes in His glory, and all the holy angels
with Him, then He will sit on the throne of His glory.
"All the nations will be gathered before Him, and He will separate
them one from another, as a shepherd divides his sheep from the goats.
"And He will set the sheep on His right hand, but the goats on
"Then the King will say to those on His right hand, 'Come, you
blessed of My Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the
foundation of the world: for I was hungry and you gave Me food; I was
thirsty and you gave Me drink; I was a stranger and you took Me in;
I was naked and you clothed Me; I was sick and you visited Me; I was
in prison and you came to Me.'
"Then the righteous will answer Him, saying, 'Lord, when did we
see You hungry and feed You, or thirsty and give You drink?
"'When did we see You a stranger and take You in, or naked and
"'Or when did we see You sick, or in prison, and come to You?'
"And the King will answer and say to them, 'Assuredly, I say to
you, inasmuch as you did it to one of the least of these My brethren,
you did it to Me.'"
The Bible says that those who care for others will be a part of God's
Kingdom. Those who strive for peace will be called the sons of God. God
knows our hearts, and we make our true motives known by our words and
deeds (Luke 6:45).
God wants us to get along with others. You can start today! Pay attention
to how you treat others. Be friendly and helpful, both in your words and
actions. Talk to people with a cheerful voice and get to know them. The
more you know them, the easier it will be to get along with them.
Set a goal today to be friendly to all those you come in contact with.
Avoid gossiping about anyone; speak only uplifting words. Show others
you're genuinely concerned about them and their needs. You will soon find
the more friendly you become, the more friends you will have. You have
God's Word on that!
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